Yes...so often think/say "I could a been...it could a been".
It is hard to peel away all the defense mechanisms layers my psyche developed to survive from being abused at such a young age. It did get me through...allowed me to survive, in a way.
BUT-it masked my true self. I was unable to discover just who I was...what I liked...what made me tick. So important to having a sense pf purpose/self-esteem/reduce, get rid of the shame.